Left ungrounded, the INFP’s best strength – a vision for the future – becomes a weakness. They know exactly what they want and how perfect it will be. There won’t be any problems, life will run smoothly and everything will go exactly as planned…

*record scratch* How many times has anything gone perfectly? And I don’t just mean in novels, I’m talking real life as well. (Novels are certainly worse as it’s the storyteller’s job to make sure things stay interesting).


INFPs get knocked and tend to fall hard. Their whole world tilts and lurches. The first instinct is to give up and find something new because their perfect life isn’t going to happen. It’s a part of their desire to avoid conflict and keep things copacetic. But when the obstacle planted in their path isn’t a person, the conflict they’re trying to avoid is only with themselves.

INFPs aren’t the only personality type that struggles with disappointment. And like all F-types, they become emotionally tied to the pursuit of their dream. Disappointment hits hard and can leave them struggling to remember why this was their dream in the first place.

The best thing an INFP can do is take a time out to regroup. Go back to the original vision and why it was important, and recommit emotionally. Running at or away from the emotional conflict isn’t going to help them in the long run because they’ll either end up drained or find themselves picking up a terrible pattern when things aren’t perfect.

And we know how rarely things are perfect.

NPs struggle in general with hard work. We look ahead and keeping up with the tedious steps required to get to that place is a lot less exciting than thinking about it. Add in an extra desire to stay in one’s head and a goal of avoiding conflict… you get the workings of someone who will find themselves changing direction at every bump in the road.

Where INFPs have the advantage over some of their closely connected types is that ability to look at an overall vision. If they can build up enough emotional resilience that disappointment causes a stumble instead of a fall, they’ll find their perfect ideal is still the right one for them if they are willing to allow for a couple of dents and cracks.